The Impact of Physical Limitations on the Elderly
The physical limitations that elderly individuals experience over time are often perceived very negatively by them. Many already feel insecure in the face of an increasingly technological world that can feel incomprehensible. When these digital changes are combined with growing physical limitations, the older person may feel that their autonomy and ability to interact with their surroundings are rapidly diminishing.
The Elderly Person’s Resistance to Offers of Help
Despite needing support from others, elderly people often resist offers of help, as receiving assistance can make them feel diminished or self-conscious. This situation usually causes significant discomfort and may lead them to reject help altogether. In turn, those offering support may feel frustrated and might hesitate to help again in the future.
Five Approaches to Offer Assistance Discreetly
It is likely that the physical limitations of an elderly person will increase over time, making support essential. To avoid hurting their pride or invading their personal space, consider these thoughtful approaches:
1. Stay available and express your willingness to help regularly and clearly. Rejections should be seen as temporary, not permanent.
2. Rephrase how you offer assistance. Instead of saying, “Sit down, I’ll do it,” say something like, “How about we do this together… we’ll save time as a team!”
3. Present shared activities as opportunities. For example: “Let’s go to the café and have a chat. I’ll help you with the stairs.” If the older person is financially able, you might add, “And you can treat us to coffee.” This way, they feel like they’re contributing, which enhances their satisfaction.
4. When accompanying someone to a medical appointment, explain that you want to meet the doctor because you care about their health and well-being. If that isn’t enough, highlight that you can give them a ride to and from the clinic and enjoy some time together.
5. Avoid negative remarks about their limitations. Instead of saying, “The house is full of clutter, you might fall,” try, “Next Wednesday I’m free and thinking of stopping by. We could sort through some things together to donate to charity. Then we can have a snack—what do you think?”
Keeping the Elderly Active With Respect and Understanding
No matter the approach, it is essential never to diminish the capabilities of the elderly. It’s important for them to remain active, within the limits of their physical and mental conditions. It’s often better to perform activities together rather than prevent them from engaging altogether.
For example, a simple trip to the supermarket offers many benefits: staying active, engaging with others, having the autonomy to choose their groceries, and feeling supported and appreciated. That said, caregivers should keep in mind that these activities often take longer, as elderly individuals tend to move at a slower pace.
KindCare Can Help
In this context, KindCare can be a valuable resource. Through our home care services, we provide assistance and support to elderly individuals in their own homes, especially when family members are unavailable. At KindCare, we believe that preserving the identity and dignity of each elderly person is fundamental to the care we provide.
To learn more or request a quote, feel free to contact us!